Unfortunately, the wonderful summer cannot last forever and there is that dreaded day when the children need to go back to school.
I am not sure about you, but in our household, this is a time of extreme anxiety which takes several weeks to calm down. Strangely enough, I always forget about this, so it always takes me by surprise.
One thing that is unavoidable in our society is the school environment and the continuous change that surrounds it. Children going into junior school or high school can be facing a huge, frightening change. For some this change is easy as they may have older sisters and brothers or are confident and mature. For others to navigate new friendship groups, teachers, the work load - it can all be too much.
Luckily Bach Flower Remedies are here to help! They can help our children and they can help parents too. If a parent is not calm and balance when a child is facing severe anxiety, they begin to be part of the problem. A parent must be a rock, a solid dependable form as the child rocks with anxiety. If a parent gets caught up in the anxieties of their children they begin to be part of the problem, and can contribute to their child's anxiety. Taking Bach remedies means that we will be centred and are able to be the stable rock that our children need at this time.
The first remedy that I recommend for everyone at this time of change is Walnut. Walnut is the protective remedy that is like a big hug. It protects you from the influences of change and also from the influences of others. As per Dr Bach: "... This Remedy provides constancy and protection from external influences." It will enable you to feel safe and therefore be able to manage your fears and concerns. Often just the feeling of not feeling safe is enough to kick off all the other emotions. Walnut is like having someone with you, holding your hand, putting their arms around you and letting you know 'All will be well'.
So if you are feeling worried and anxious, it is good to ask yourself some questions, or if you are a parent, to ask your child some open questions so that you can get a feel for what they are feeling at this difficult time.
"R what do you think when you think about about going back to school?", "How are you feeling about going to this new big school?" "Are there any worries and concerns that you have that we need to take into count?" We need to listen attentively to our own voice of that of our child. And we also need to observe our actions or those of our children. Are there signs of anxiety, do you feel frightened or alone or scared, or overwhelmed or sad or excited? Thinking about new teachers and friendship groups and bigger loads of homework can all be overwhelming and distressing.
If you are able to express exactly what you are concerned about then Mimulus is the remedy for you. If you can say I am scared of what the Year 8's will think of me, or I don't want to go because we have to study so much this year, or I have no friends, then Mimulus will ease this fear. Strangely enough it is also useful for shyness, so perfect for that start of term. Mimulus "... the fears of everyday life. The people who need it keep their burden of fears and anxieties to themselves and do not willingly talk about them with others." Taking this remedy will magically make those fears and concerns disappear. Well not totally, but they do take that horrible edge off the feelings and allow you to 'feel the fear, and do it anyway.'
If you are not sure of why you are feeling frightened, but you just feel very scared -then Aspen is the remedy to support you at this time. Aspen ….”gives us faith in the essentially goodness and rightness of the world. It helps us overcome vague fears that are not related to any specific cause…by giving us grounded courage and confidence.” Aspen will enable you to over come any fears and to be bold and adventurous.
If you feel completely overwhelmed and all you can see is the BIG picture - Mock Exams, GCSE exams, months of studying, Failing, Disappointment, Shame, 'Whole future of being a waiter even though I want to be an pilot' kind of thinking...then Elm is the prefect remedy for you. Elm is great for parents too! It takes all the fear, worry and concern away and leaves you in the position where you are able to just get on with the task at hand. I gave my son some Elm before I started writing his as he was struggling to get a start as he was too frighten about EVERYTHING. I am happy to say he has sat concentrating for the last hour and has broken the back of not revising for his exams (So proud!). Elm gives you the strength to perform your duties. I love it!
Larch is a wonderful remedy for giving you a boost of confidence. Larch allows you to gain the confidence to try anything. Larch "gives us that hopeful positivity that tells us we can do things as well as anyone else, and that if we try and fail that too is a way to succeed." At the start of new term and/or a new school we all need a boost of confidence and Larch is the remedy to do this.
If have to change schools and do not want to, or you are feeling so sad that you have left your old school and you feel very nostalgic about the old school, school mates and its teachers, Honeysuckle will enable you to break the ties with the, often idealised, past and give you the courage to look forward with confidence and adventure to the future. "For those who often think of the past, perhaps because it was a happy time or they cultivate the memory of a friend ... .. They no longer expect to experience happiness equal to the one they have already lived". This will give you the best chance to engage, adapt and enjoy the new environment.
And I would highly suggest the powerful Rescue Remedyfor when, and if, the anxiety levels rise very high. Rescue Remedy is the emergency treatment and a couple of doses of it do wonders for the anxiety of entering into a new, strange and scary environment. Pop some into your water bottle so you can be sipping on it all day, or carry a bottle in your pocket and take a few drops whenever you need. It will stop that paralysing fear and enable you to get on with the day.
Trust that it will not take long before you feel settled and happy in your new environment and the anxieties and fears of the first few days will soon be over.
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Ne brave and be bold - make your presence felt! Good luck for the new school year.