More and more we are hearing the term 'Mental Health' being spoken about. As opposed to illnesses that occur in our body, mental health refers to the state of our mind, emotions, psychological and social well-being. It impacts the way we think, feel and act, making healthy mental health very important in all areas of our lives. It plays a particularly important role in how we relate to others, how we deal with stress and how we cope with the decisions we make in our daily life.
To have positive mental health means that we are able to feel good about ourselves, have a good relationship with ourselves and others, work productively and effectively. We are able to explore and realise our full potential, contribute in a meaningful way to our community, and to resilient and robust enough to be able to handle the stress that comes with everyday life.
Ensuring that you have a health mental state is vital to live a more fulfilling and enjoyable life. It is something that you must focus on every day and work towards. Due to the complexities of life there is not a one fix for all. Like maintaining your physical health, there various ways you can maintain your mental health.
Ocean Red is working on a fantastic new book which outlines 101 ways you can create positive mental attitude and resilient emotional wellbeing - it is due to come out at the end of November.
Just making the smallest of changes in your life style can bring about profound emotional well being and these will all be explored in the book. From getting enough sleep, to being physically active, connecting with others, finding your purpose, being mindful, helping others and thinking positively about yourself.
And it is the last that is the most profound - the way that you speak to yourself about yourself.
Talking to yourself in a positive and powerful way will change your life. The opening words of Gospel of John in the Bible reads: "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God".
Words carry power, and your emotional wellbeing can be transformed by the worlds that you speak.
We can either say:
"I am going to fail my GSCE", "I should just give up now", "I am no good for anything"
"I have everything I need at this moment in time to help me succeed in my exams"
"I move into the winning circle, success is waiting for me, prosperity of every kind is being drawn to me"
"I am amazing, creative, kind, generous and loving. I care for animals and young children, I am a positive influence on those around me, and I help others when and where ever I can."
One of the easiest ways for you to feel good about yourself is to speak to yourself as you would speak to someone you love. Kindly.
You can do this now, stop for a minute and say 3 good things about yourself. Mention something that you are good at, what you love to do, success you have had. Think only of your successes, not of your failures. Focus on the positive. See those wonderful aspects about yourself and feel them. Hold onto these feelings and these thoughts.
Now every time a negative thought about yourself comes into your mind - shove it out of the way with a positive feeling/experience/thought.
"I don't have any time to do my homework" to "I have all the time that I need to get the things done that I need to. And I know that when I focus, like I did last Tuesday, I am unstoppable and not only am I able to do all my homework, but I am able to do it all well, and that makes me feel good."
Well done - you have taken a strong step to gaining and maintaining good mental health.
Some inspirational mental health quotes to help you on your journey - thank you Everyday Power.
“It doesn’t have to take over your life, it doesn’t have to define you as a person, it’s just important that you ask for help. It’s not a sign of weakness.” —Demi Lovato
“What does your anxiety do? It does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but it empties today of its strength. It does not make you escape the evil; it makes you unfit to cope with it if it comes.” ― Raymond L. Cramer
“There isn’t anybody out there who doesn’t have a mental health issue, whether it’s depression, anxiety, or how to cope with relationships. Having OCD is not an embarrassment anymore – for me. Just know that there is help and your life could be better if you go out and seek the help.” – Howie Mandel
“It is not the the bruises on the body that hurt. It is the wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind.”― Aisha Mirza
“And every person can benefit from talking to somebody. I’m the most anti-medication person, but some people need medicine, and there was a time where I needed some too.” —Miley Cyrus
“Your illness is not your identity. Your chemistry is not your character.” — Pastor Rick Warren
“Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it isn’t so.” –Lemony Snicket
“One small crack does not mean that you are broken, it means that you were put to the test and you didn’t fall apart.” –Linda Poindexter
“Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” – Noam Shpancer
“It was too heavy a burden to carry and I simply couldn’t do that anymore. I sought and received treatment, I put positive people around me and I got back to doing what I love – writing songs and making music.” – Mariah Carey
“I’m struggling just to get through the days. I think a lot of people are.” — Justin Bieber
“About a third of my cases are suffering from no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives. This can be defined as the general neurosis of our times.” – C.G. Jung
“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.”― John Green
“Your illness does not define you. Your strength and courage does.” –Unknown
“There’s not shame in dealing with these things. There’s no shame in having to fight everyday.” — Jared Padalecki
If you are seriously struggling - speak to someone, anyone. Talk about it. You are not alone. There are many organisations and people available to help and support you. Seek professional help as they will provide you with strategies to help you take care of your mental health.